At the point of maturity we realize our life is to no one else’s blame or credit, good or bad. All of us alive at this moment were given the gift of life, along with personal responsibility for our lives beginning at the moment we become aware that the way we live is our choice. This is self-responsibility
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“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.” ~Anatole France
Beyond blame we will find healing if that is our intention. Without cleansing and healing our wounds with each each other, we will all continue to carry them internally and externally. Some of us stand to be, or are, more seriously compromised by the losses of estrangement in our relationships, and it is particularly for this reason that we must begin and follow through the work of reconciliation.
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One of our richest and deepest sources of learning is found in our relationships.
Most of us have much to learn about relating well with others. These skills were rarely taught to us at any previous point in our lives. In fact for most of us, relationship skills were not taught at all. We were “taught” unconsciously as we grew up, interacting with our families, friends, neighbors, schools, and communities, learning the behavior that was modeled there.
In adulthood, we often struggle in at least one type of relationship: with our partner, our boss or co-worker, a child or other family member, a friend, and so on.
Our closest relationships are inevitably the hardest places for us to “be nice”.
We really do come home and kick the dog, except the dog is now a human being, and is, perhaps, someone we love. In the privacy or secrecy of our home or office, we allow ourselves to treat the people around us in less than respectful ways, while at the same time maintaining “respectful” relationships with them and/or others in public view.
How did we get this way? Probably not by design. Probably not by intention. We probably got this way in the absence of having learned any better way to conduct ourselves in relationships.
Building a gold standard relationship with those closest to us is a goal worth the gold of the standard.
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Not experiencing the suffering but suffering the experience.
The snag and the snagger
The tree is the snagger, the leaves are the snag.
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An extreme, radical change
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Even the smallest attempt to find new answers is a new answer.
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The more careful I am with what I say, with what I do) the less sorry I have to be until the see starts to saw the other way.
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Human beings can reach such desperate solitude that they may cross a boundary beyond which words cannot serve, and at such moments there is nothing left for them but to breathe.
Anais Nin
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