At the point of maturity we realize our life is to no one else’s blame or credit, good or bad. All of us alive at this moment were given the gift of life, along with personal responsibility for our lives beginning at the moment we become aware that the way we live is our choice. This is self-responsibility
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Beyond blame we will find healing if that is our intention. Without cleansing and healing our wounds with each each other, we will all continue to carry them internally and externally. Some of us stand to be, or are, more seriously compromised by the losses of estrangement in our relationships, and it is particularly for this reason that we must begin and follow through the work of reconciliation.
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One of our richest and deepest sources of learning is found in our relationships.
Most of us have much to learn about relating well with others. These skills were rarely taught to us at any previous point in our lives. In fact for most of us, relationship skills were not taught at all. We were “taught” unconsciously as we grew up, interacting with our families, friends, neighbors, schools, and communities, learning the behavior that was modeled there.
In adulthood, we often struggle in at least one type of relationship: with our partner, our boss or co-worker, a child or other family member, a friend, and so on.
Our closest relationships are inevitably the hardest places for us to “be nice”.
We really do come home and kick the dog, except the dog is now a human being, and is, perhaps, someone we love. In the privacy or secrecy of our home or office, we allow ourselves to treat the people around us in less than respectful ways, while at the same time maintaining “respectful” relationships with them and/or others in public view.
How did we get this way? Probably not by design. Probably not by intention. We probably got this way in the absence of having learned any better way to conduct ourselves in relationships.
Building a gold standard relationship with those closest to us is a goal worth the gold of the standard.
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An extreme, radical change
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Even the smallest attempt to find new answers is a new answer.
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The more careful I am with what I say, with what I do) the less sorry I have to be until the see starts to saw the other way.
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Embrace change. An option, a direction, an acceptance, an attitude, an action, a vibration. Embracing with my heart and my mind and my actions. Beyond the law of attraction is the law of resonance. That which is in me resonates with that which is outside of me and I meet up with like vibrations as a magnet would.
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We often hear talk about “empowering others”. However, we cannot actually empower others and others cannot empower us.
However, what we can do is acknowledge our own personal empowerment – cultivation – and we cultivate ourselves by amending the “soil” – our inner nutrition; providing “water” – most life giving of all; situating light – what we focus on. In others words, we cultivate ourselves by maximizing our inner conditions within which we can realize our power and potentiality.
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Responsibility is not any one particular response
Responsibility is the ability to respond.
No one can tell us what our responsibility is.
We must tell ourselves
When we choose our response.
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The Next Moment
What does the next moment hold when the present holds pain, or grief, or regret, or disappointment?
The pain, grief, regret or disappointment slides into
the next moment, which then holds healing, awareness, the reminder of completeness.
Like the two-sided coin, there are two sides to every moment. Just that quick, on the one side we can see, if we choose, light, healing, and awareness brightening. On the other side we can see, if we choose, darkness, difficulty, and confusion, indicating the need to adjust the path ahead toward light.
Transformation is the willingness to see this other side.
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